Healing from Codependency & The Secret of how to Fall in Love with Yourself, PART 3 ? Needs
In my last two videos I shared that on the way to falling in love with yourself ACCEPTANCE is the first step. And then it is about figuring out where are your boundaries, which I shared with you in my last video. And today we are going to talk about your needs.
Why I am sharing this content with you is, because it is not only important for own benefit to heal. If we heal ourselves, then our children are taken care of at the same time.
Sharon Pearson, the founder of the TCI in Melbourne expresses that beautifully in a quote:
?THE WORK IN PROGRESS IS US. IF WE HEAL US, THEN OUR CHILDREN WON?T NEED THERAPY.
IF WE TAKE CARE OF OUR OWN STUFF, THEN THE CHILDREN HAVE ENOUGH ROOM FOR THEIR STUFF' by Sharon Pearson
At our core we are not here to be goal setters and achievers.
We are here to be lovers, lovers of ourselves, deeply connected to who we really are.
We are not here to have a life on the outside and feel frail on the inside.
We are supposed to have the two worlds met.
Definition: 'asic human needs are whatever people require to be able to achieve a level of functioning that satisfies a given ethical conception.
6 Core Needs:
1. Certainty / Safety / Comfort / Security
2. Uncertainty / Adventure / Variety / Challenge
3. Significance / Respect
4. Connection / Love
5. Growth
6. Contribution
Out of all these needs we have 2 Core Drivers which determine our actions.
My Core Drivers are Security and Connection. That?s why I was in such turmoil in my marriage. On the one hand I didn?t want to leave because that was against my driver of Security. I didn?t know what would happen once I stepped out of my marriage. Everything was uncertain all of a sudden, my living expenses, where I would live, what would happen with the children and how they would take it.
On the other hand, staying in my marriage meant, that I was missing the connection, my other Core Driver because I wasn?t allowed to socialize.
Once I found out about my Core Drivers, a lot of my life started to make sense.
There is a way on how to find out your Core Drivers which is called Rapid Fire Questioning which I would love to offer for free for people who are interested. So, don?t wait any longer and get in touch with me today. You?ve got my contact details down below.
I would love to help you with that so that you will find out why you do certain things.
Love,
Andrea
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